When you’re trying to keep fit, running is one of the activities you can’t skip. For many people, having someone to run with makes such much more enjoyable. However, some people wonder if their husband, wife or long-term partner is the right person for this.
Here are few things to consider before you lace up those running shoes.
Get Comfortable With Running Alone First
Before anything else, many people recommend getting used to jogging individually first. The reason behind this is that for all the physical activities you do with other people, you have to hold your own. For best results out of your run or jog, you can’t be entirely dependent on the other person, somewhat holding them back from reaching their milestones regarding exercise. According to Rachel Urbano, PsyD, “What I love about running is it helps me to see what’s going on inside of me.”
Share Similar Fitness Goals
Personal goals are one of the first things you should consider when running alongside anyone. “The beauty of running is that it’s a sport that can be selectively engaged in to meet others and create lasting bonds, to independently release stress, and to achieve personal goals,” explains Leah Lagos Wallach, PsyD. It will be a difficult situation if one person’s objective is to introduce cardio into their routine while the other wants to full-out train for a marathon.
As much as this experience could strengthen the bond between you and your partner, it could only lead to frustration and tension if your goals don’t match up. Consider finding a compromise if you still wish to do this with them. Allow some running time together but spend some parts of your daily jog doing your own thing.
They Make For Great Motivation
Good partners should always support you with endeavors that help make you better. It includes you sticking to your fitness plans and meeting your objectives. Some partners even begin running together because one of them simply inspired the other to take up the routine.
You and your spouse could be each other’s cheerleaders. Throw in some motivational words during your next run and don’t forget to send some words of appreciation their way after your jog either.
They Can Spark Up Some Competition
When you have a running buddy, things could sometimes get competitive. It can be both a good thing and a bad thing, depending on how well you handle such cases.
Light, friendly competition could be useful. It will push you to run faster or further, developing abilities such as speed, agility, endurance, strength and so on. When asked about competition, Jennifer Kromberg, PsyD, answered “Is the goal to ‘win’ or is the goal to learn, grow, enjoy and perform to the best of your ability, regardless of the winner? In order to meet your goal, do you have to feel better than others?” Just a thought.
However, pushing too far or too hard can cause some unneeded conflict and arguments in the future. It could even lead to resentment and more long-term issues. To avoid this, make sure you discuss your goals, as mentioned earlier. Also, make sure you communicate well with each other and be vocal when you feel that things are going too far.
The most important thing that will matter is that you are enjoying the time you spend running, whether you decide to go with your partner or not. Communication is still the key, as well as remembering that you love, care and respect each other enough to support one another with all the goals you have in life.